I offer individual and couple psychotherapy at my office in a rural setting in Surrey.  I also travel internationally to facilitate therapeutic work with groups and organisations.

 

What is Psychotherapy?


Psychotherapy is a general term used to describe a number of different talking therapies.  In this speciality I will focus on psycho-analytic psychotherapy.  It is a talking treatment which aims to help people by discovering what lies beneath their difficulties and to use this understanding to find better ways of dealing with them.  Although speaking openly and freely about difficulties and worries can by itself bring some relief, psychotherapy also aims to help people gain insight into their difficulties. This is the challenging – and rewarding-part.  Longstanding problems, symptoms and relationship difficulties often have their origins in early life. These difficulties can be expressions of early patterns and ways of being that are no longer suitable for our current lives. Dealing with current difficulties may mean examining  what was learned that was not helpful, or facing things which remain unresolved. The insight and understanding of how early experiences still influence one’s view of oneself, of relationships and of the world can be a starting point from which to make changes in oneself and one’s life.  


What sort of people see psychotherapists?


Psychotherapy can help people with a wide range of emotional and relationship problems:

anxiety, depression or mood swings;

feelings of sadness or dissatisfaction;

difficulties in relationships;

bereavement, divorce or job loss;

expressing emotional distress through physical symptoms or self-harming behaviours.


In order to gain the benefit of psychotherapy it will be important to want to understand yourself better as part of resolving your problems.  Psychotherapy can be a challenging experience and will need application and persistence to be of value. If you are currently using alcohol or mind altering chemicals and find it difficult to manage without these, it may better to seek  treatment for this before embarking on psychotherapy.


What actually goes on in therapy sessions?


People have regular time to talk about themselves, about the things they think, feel and do.  It is through this process of talking about themselves and increasing their understanding that people gain benefit.  Psychotherapists don’t have instant solutions – the process is often a slow one.


Different Kinds of Psychotherapy


The type of therapy  you are offered will depend on your individual circumstances and personality.  It may that any one, or a combination of these would  be best for you-  individual, group, family/couple and arts therapies.  Individual and group therapies are generally  once weekly.



Individual Psychotherapy


Individual psychotherapy consists of weekly sessions that are for 50 minutes.  Most commonly the course of psychotherapy will be for a fixed period, which will be discussed with you after our initial meeting.   In some cases the therapy may need to be longer term and open-ended.  It involves talking about what is actually going on in your  life, as well as about the influence of your  past and also about the professional relationship with the therapist. 


Group therapy


Group psychotherapy consists of weekly sessions lasting one and a half hours.  It is a long term therapy.    Groups usually have

6-8  members which includes the therapist.  Group therapy has a similar emphasis to that of individual psychotherapy but there are more people to talk to. The group also provides the chance for people to hear how others see them and  a chance to see the way they react to others and others react to them.


People often come to psychotherapy because of problems with relationships.  Groups can be especially useful by letting people see more clearly exactly what happens as they get to know people better.  In the group people can explore feelings and ideas without the pressure of the consequences that would normally exist in ordinary every day relationships.  In addition they provide an opportunity to explore the influence of early family relationships.


Couple Therapy

Couple therapy is more than improving communication and understanding the other, while also valuing yourself and your view. Everyone enters a relationship with their own personal history. This often influences how the couple relates and can lead to repeating patterns that are unhelpful. Therapy helps understand these dynamics, to re-evaluate the relationship and to make changes.


 

“We deem those happy who from the experience of life have learnt to bear its ills without being overcome by them.”  Carl Jung